Before the special day – what happened?

There should of been a lot of things that happened before the special wedding day –

There should of be  dates, there should of been questions and yes there even should of been fun things and hard things together – if you were honest –

There may have even been mistakes made, new persons found, you should of learned something about your self and about your future spouse –

So what does all of this have to  do with who you are – every thing –

How you were raised, how you were trained to socialize – how were you at looking and seeking and thinking about yourself and others –

Dating – good and better dating help you find a great spouse or partner –

The following was a comedy – but it had some great points.

Of course there is a lot more to it – but it makes you think about what you say and how you say things to others – I really enjoyed it and it was fun but  think about the how your training – how your thoughts and how – you relate and interact with others –

Think about all of work that had to be done first on the inside before the out side was attractive to any one – even and  especially to your self first – this is the beginning of the creation process – the world on the inside is always later  manifest on the outside – think about that first!

Never forget that fact – its the beginning of any creation – secret number one!

You attract things that you are like – that can be good and that can be bad – what are you like?  Do you like who you are – do you love who you are?  Does it show in what you do?

Yes yes  yes – not no no no –

Are you growing in your own special light and truth and does it connect to Gods light and truth?    It should – Again you are  connected to this great love – this  great light – this greater truth – it will lead you to your very best – seek and follow it!

In the movie if you watched it – Annie asks – what are you passionate about?  What do you love doing?  Who are you?  You could and should ask your self those same questions and more – you should also know those things about your spouse or individual that you are dating in time – especially if you are going to make a commitment to marriage etc.

You see serious dating is a lot more about – who you are and what you want and why – all important – questions – its NOT about just having fun and have sex  and the foolish things of this world –

It’t in time about serious questions – like does he or she want a family?  What about where to live – what about careers – responsibilities and long  term commitments etc.etc. etc.

All this to prepare for greater things and service and things to come – hopefully like children and eventually grandchildren – wow – you didn’t want to go there yet – right?

Relax its all about – progress – step by step problem solving and prep for future together – the better you are prepared the better you will work through things together.

What about faith, what about finances – what about a lot of things – you see that what engagement is all about – before the final step of marriage – and again that is just another step too – do you get it?

Step by step building on a solid foundation first, and that’s a problem to a lot of things -there is no solid foundation first!

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